Greg Marcar is the Harold Turner Research Fellow at the Center for Theology and Public Issues at the University of Otago
In Being Disciples, Rowan Williams offers a meditative aside on his experience of Desmond Tutu and the reflections about the nature of self-love which arose from these encounters:
I have a theory, which I started elaborating after I had met Archbishop Desmond Tutu a few times, that there are two kinds of egotists in this world. There are egotists that are so in love with themselves that they have no room for anybody else, and there are egotists that are so in love with themselves that they make it possible for everybody else to be in love with themselves…They have learned to sense some of the joy that God takes in them. And in that sense Desmond Tutu manifestly loves being Desmond Tutu; there’s no doubt about that. But the effect of that is not to make me feel frozen or shrunk; it makes me feel that just possibly, by God’s infinite grace, I could one day love being Rowan Williams in the way that Desmond loves being Desmond Tutu… .